Thursday, July 5, 2012

Before "I do"

 I've recently headed into my twenties and have subsequently found myself in the midst of the 20th's and 21'st that seem to be springing up everywhere.My generation are coming of age and with that appears to come a certain delirium , the false notion that we are "done","peaked", "finished" , and my personal favourite ..." oh so old",
despite the fact that  most of us live at home (or our parents pay for our rent if we don't), aren't finished with our degrees and can't even pay for our own petrol ....... Yes we are dependently independent.

 I personally like the idea of being "Young, Wild and Free" (not in the illegal sense), However, I feel I belong to a minority that feel this way.

The favorite topics that seems to constantly  resurface are "marriage "( domestic bliss?) and the ever looming "ticking of the maternal clock"( damn you biology).

Why is that i'm constantly hearing that girls of my generation are wanting to be, or are engaged ?
  I'm all for falling in love, as they say if you haven't loved you haven't lived ,but are we falling head first into life ( eyes closed) ?

Your 20's are all about finding yourself , exploring who you are and who you want to be in life. A marriage is about contribution and a balance. You can't balance the books with someone else until you've actually balanced yourself and maybe that happens for some people at 21, but how many 21 year olds can you really say that about ?

 We've only just entered this door into this so called "Adulthood", So I think defining ourselves so soon may be jumping the gun though there is no time frame for finding yourself.

And yes of course I am generalizing as there are people who do pave their own way at the age of 20 and above , and should be commended for it but ask yourself this: are you truly ready to eternally compromise at this age ?

I'm not writing this post because i'm trying to be cynical or judge anyone , I'm just looking at all the options and wondering which choices will our generation be known for because at the end of the day we are "Born to blossom and bloom to perish."

This is the time of our life where we are not only laying a foundation for our futures but have the opportunity to be carefree , to make mistakes , to not be accountable for anyone but ourselves. So treat yourself well and make good choices because tomorrow is the price you pay for today.


  1. So true and such a relevant Topic!!
    keep it up.

  2. Very well written post. I am at that age as well and I definitely know the feeling. Great blog :) xx

  3. Wow you have really out done yourself this time Lina!!

  4. Awesome blog! would you mind following each other via bloglovin? :) x

    /Malin @


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